From Children of the Self Absorbed:
A Grownup's Guide to Getting over Narcissistic Parents by Nina Brown
1. Turns every conversation to him or herself.
2. Expects you to meet his or her emotional needs
3. Ignores the impact of his or her negative comments on you.
4. Constantly criticizes or berates you and knows what is best for you.
5. Focus' on blaming rather than taking responsibility for his or her own behavior.
6. Expects you to jump at his or her every need.
7. Is overly involved with his or her own hobbies, interests or addictions ignoring your needs.
8. Has high need for attention: Brags, sulks, complains, inappropriately teases, is flamboyant, loud and boisterous.
9. Is closed minded about own mistakes. Can't handle criticism and gets angry to shut off the criticism.
10. Becomes angry when his or her needs are not met and has tantrums or intimidates.
11. Has an attitude of "Anything you can do, I can do better".
12. Engages in one-upmanship to seem important.
13. Acts in a seductive manner or is overly charming.
14. Is vain and fishes for compliments. Expects you to admire him or her.
15. Isn't satisfied unless he or she has the "biggest" or "best".
16. Seeks status. Spends money to impress others.
17. Forgets what you have done for them yet keeps reminding you that you owe them today.
18. Neglects the family to impress others. Does it all: Is a super person to gain admiration.
19. Threatens to abandon you if you don't go along with what he or she wants.
20. Does not obey the law--sees himself or herself above the law.
21. Does not expect to be penalized for failure to follow directions or conform to guidelines.
22. Ignores your feelings and calls you overly sensitive or touchy if you express feelings.
23. Tells you how you should feel or not feel.
24. Cannot listen to you and cannot allow your opinions.
25. Is more interested in his or her own concerns and interests than yours.
26. Is unable to see things from any point of view other than his or her own.
27. Wants to control what you do and say--tries to micromanage you.
28. Attempts to make you feel stupid, helpless and inept when you do things on your own.
29. Has poor insight and can not see the impact his or her selfish behavior has on you.
30. Has shallow emotions and interests.
31. Exploits others with lies and manipulations.
32. Uses emotional blackmail to get what he or she wants.
A Grownup's Guide to Getting over Narcissistic Parents by Nina Brown
1. Turns every conversation to him or herself.
2. Expects you to meet his or her emotional needs
3. Ignores the impact of his or her negative comments on you.
4. Constantly criticizes or berates you and knows what is best for you.
5. Focus' on blaming rather than taking responsibility for his or her own behavior.
6. Expects you to jump at his or her every need.
7. Is overly involved with his or her own hobbies, interests or addictions ignoring your needs.
8. Has high need for attention: Brags, sulks, complains, inappropriately teases, is flamboyant, loud and boisterous.
9. Is closed minded about own mistakes. Can't handle criticism and gets angry to shut off the criticism.
10. Becomes angry when his or her needs are not met and has tantrums or intimidates.
11. Has an attitude of "Anything you can do, I can do better".
12. Engages in one-upmanship to seem important.
13. Acts in a seductive manner or is overly charming.
14. Is vain and fishes for compliments. Expects you to admire him or her.
15. Isn't satisfied unless he or she has the "biggest" or "best".
16. Seeks status. Spends money to impress others.
17. Forgets what you have done for them yet keeps reminding you that you owe them today.
18. Neglects the family to impress others. Does it all: Is a super person to gain admiration.
19. Threatens to abandon you if you don't go along with what he or she wants.
20. Does not obey the law--sees himself or herself above the law.
21. Does not expect to be penalized for failure to follow directions or conform to guidelines.
22. Ignores your feelings and calls you overly sensitive or touchy if you express feelings.
23. Tells you how you should feel or not feel.
24. Cannot listen to you and cannot allow your opinions.
25. Is more interested in his or her own concerns and interests than yours.
26. Is unable to see things from any point of view other than his or her own.
27. Wants to control what you do and say--tries to micromanage you.
28. Attempts to make you feel stupid, helpless and inept when you do things on your own.
29. Has poor insight and can not see the impact his or her selfish behavior has on you.
30. Has shallow emotions and interests.
31. Exploits others with lies and manipulations.
32. Uses emotional blackmail to get what he or she wants.